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Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t you’re right!

8th August 2018
mindset

Sign for settled ways of thinking which can be difficult to overcome.

We have all heard the quote from Henry Ford “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t you’re right” at some point in time. What he was pointing out was mindset determines success or failure. But what lies behind our mindset?

Over the last few weeks I’ve been working with a number of people to explore their beliefs. These beliefs can be empowering – helping us take positive action to achieve results, or disempowering (limiting) and preventing us from taking action, or taking action in a way that prevents us from getting the result we really want.

An empowering belief might be I’m brilliant, I’m competent, I’m confident, whereas a limiting belief might be I’m weak, I’m useless, I’m not wanted. Either way they are self fulfilling – the action you take and the subsequent results will re-inforce that belief.

For this article I want to focus on limiting beliefs. We all have them and recognising and changing them to something more positive and empowering will change the way you act and consequently, the results you get.

What are the stories you tell yourself?

We all ‘get in our own way’ and often prevent ourselves from being even more brilliant that we actually are. We do this through our own unconscious patterns of thinking, telling ourselves:

  • “It can’t be done”
  • “It’s not possible”
  • “I don’t deserve this”
  • “I’ll look stupid”

To name but a few…

All of these are stories. They blinker us. These stories are formed from the beliefs we have and are always driven by fear and a place of thinking that you are fundamentally flawed, you’re being disloyal, you’re a burden or you can’t stand out.

They stop us from seeing what just might be possible.

As a leader in business you are constantly learning and working to be a better version of  you. Yet most of us focus on tasks and management tools and techniques. These all help, however, our stories are created in our head. No amount of busyness or management tools and techniques will change the stories. It requires a different approach.

Getting out of your own way

The good news is you can do something about this.

The starting point is awareness. Because beliefs are held at an unconscious level they will come out in the language we use. So, the best way to spot them is to listen to what you say, particularly your internal dialogue. Take some time out to reflect on your self -talk – the conversation that goes on inside your head.

I encourage people to take a specific situation(s) where things didn’t go the way you wanted and brainstorm the things you say to yourself. We’re specifically looking for the negative comments. This may actually reveal the limiting beliefs you have, or at the very least, provide a doorway to get to them.

Once identified you then look for the belief you want instead that is empowering. For example, last week I worked with someone whose limiting belief was I’m weak, and identified a more empowering belief of I’m assertive and strong.

One of the best ways to work with this topic is hire a coach – but I would say that wouldn’t I… An external person can often see what you can’t, your blind spots.

I have a specific technique I use which creates shifts easily and effortlessly so if you are interested in finding out more email me.

“Those who can’t change their minds can’t change anything.”

George Bernard Shaw

 

 

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