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Entries from July 2017

The impact you have matters!

11th July 2017


As a leader you are on show all of the time. People notice your substance as well as your style and your job is to take people with you.

So, how are you doing on that score?

To take people with you you have to engage their hearts and minds. To do this you have to engage your own heart and mind and use them in equal proportions.

How do you get people to listen to you, remember you and act on your words?

More often than not it’s not about the content yet, that’s where most of us put our focus. It’s about the way you engage with others;

  • How you emotionally respond
  • How you listen
  • How you speak
  • How you move

This requires a great deal of self-awareness and it is my personal belief that you cannot lead others until you first learn to lead yourself.

Knowing yourself well equates to recognising your own thoughts and feelings in the moment and choosing how to respond. It means making an instant decision on how to express what your thinking and feeling and what may be appropriate.

People who are good at this generally have that ‘je ne sais quoi’. They have gravitas, presence, that invisible ingredient that makes the difference and we can all have it. It just takes practice.

It’s about the knowledge of the mind and body working together.

It all starts with self-awareness

Start by noticing how you are walking or how you are sitting. Are your feet planted firmly on the floor. Do you feel grounded – connected to the ground? Take some time to really feel supported by the ground beneath your feet.

Now pay attention to your spine and your head. Are they straight? Are you in your full length and relaxed. There should be no tension in your torso. This will make you look confident even if it feels a little awkward at first. The awkwardness is simply because you are putting your body in a different shape.

Now take a deep breath, from your diaphragm and continue to breath from there. The Greeks said underneath the diaphragm was the somatic seat of your intellect – the mental powers key to understanding. For me it helps you tap into your intuition.

Practice walking around like this and taking this position in meetings. You’ll find your voice changes and you’ll speak a little slower.

Notice when your shape changes and what causes this and then go back to this practice of being more present.

By doing so you will enable you to:

  • Be graceful under pressure
  • Stand your ground
  • Stick to your vision
  • Be aware of others so you can blend with them and bring them on board.

There is a subtlety to taking people with you and engaging them. It’s not about ‘force’ or using your positional power. It is about using your personal power which you can only do when you are relaxed and connected to who you are.

Have fun practicing and if you want to know more please email me and I’ll set up a free discovery call.

“Practice isn’t the thing you do when you’re good. It’s the thing you do that makes you good.”

Malcolm Gladwell

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