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Personal Impact – What’s it like to be on the receiving end of you?

11th January 2018

Personal Impact


What is it like to be on the receiving end of you?

Have you ever asked yourself this question?

As a leader you are on show all of the time and one of your key roles is to take people with you. To do this you need to employ a variety of influencing skills using both push and pull techniques. It’s an art form and takes lots of practice to master.

The mistake that most people make is to focus on the outcome – what they want, with very little consideration of where the other person is and what they might want. The last thing you think about is how do I need to show up!

You are judged by the impact you have on others, what you say, how you say it, what you do and how you act.

Be honest with yourself. How often do you consider the impact you want to have with someone, and when I say consider I mean really stop and ask yourself this question as part of your preparation strategy?

Always, sometimes or never?

I know I don’t always ask myself this question, however I know there are certain circumstances when I always do; for example when meeting a client for the first time, running a workshop and preparing for coaching sessions.

What occasions do you consider the impact you want to have and how can you do more of this?

So how do others experience you?

To be an effective leader your actions have got to match your intentions.

If you are thinking one thing and saying another people pick up on this. When was the last time you asked for feedback about the impact you have, your communication style and how you interact with others?

Without feedback you will never know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of you and the recipients experience.

Leadership is about connection, so you need to be sure you connect and engage   with everyone you meet.

You have to take the other person into consideration. So when you’re thinking about your intention for a one to one meeting think about these four things:

  • What is your current relationship with them?
  • What history is there between you (or their department)?
  • How do you want this relationship to develop?
  • Knowing this, how do I need to BE in this conversation?

Give some thought to the energy you want to transmit, your posture, your voice tone and your language.

Leaders who create the ‘right’ impact create a following. They are the ones who create an engaged workforce to get results.

My free mini coaching series will give you some ideas on what to do and provide some exercises to practice. You’ll find more information here.

“Do all that you can, with all that you have, in the time that you have, in the place where you are.”

Nkosi Johnson




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